MARIANNE DASHWOOD: “But why were you not there,Edward?-Why did you not come?”
EDWARD FERRARS: “I was engaged elsewhere.”
MARIANNE: “Engaged! But what was that, when such friends were to be met?”
LUCY STEELE: “Perhaps, Miss Marianne,” cried Lucy, eager to take some revenge on her, “you think young men never stand upon engagements, if they have no mind to keep them, little as well as great.”
-SENSE AND SENSIBILITY
He did it–he popped the question. You are all happiness until a cloud dulls the sunshine of your tender young love. His family does not approve. But he’s sure he can talk them into it if you just give him some time. He will contrive a way to introduce you into the family, and once they know you, they are sure to love you as he does! Fortunately for you, the law is on your side, as well as society. If he breaks it off, not only will his honor be questionable, but your father can bring suit for breach of promise. All is well so long as you have no reason to doubt his affection, but if he becomes distracted, you will need to remind him of his commitments.
• Correspond regularly. Keep yourself fresh in his mind. Because you are engaged, there is nothing wrong with exchanging letters, and they will serve as proof of your engagement. So that your engagement is not discovered before the time is right, you might be put to some pains to pick up the mail yourself at the post office. Just tell everyone that you need the daily walk.
• Provide him with a token of your affection. A lock of your hair set into a ring is an excellent and ever-present reminder of your love for him. If he is tempted to speak with other young ladies, they will no doubt be curious about it, which will serve as a reminder of to whom his loyalty belongs.
• Chase off poachers. Do not be afraid to let other young ladies in on the secret if they show an interest in your young man. Appeal to their honor to keep the news in the strictest of confidence.
• Contrive to be near him. No doubt there will be some time when you can be alone together.
• Distract the nosy parkers. If someone appears to be suspicious of your relationship, throw her off the scent by suggesting that your beloved actually is in love with someone else entirely. Everyone loves gossip, and if you are sufficiently convincing, she will never suspect that you have thrown your dearest one under the stagecoach.
• Threaten to break off the engagement. If he gives you a bad time, let him know that you do not need him. You don’t need a man; you can support yourself. Get yourself a position as a governess or companion; that will fix his little red wagon! But remember, angry people are not always wise. You might later regret a hasty, ill-considered action.
