- by Alanna Kalb, author of Stuff Every Woman Should Know
The phrase “Good manners” is now viewed as passé. The term alone brings to mind little white gloves and outdated rules. But common courtesy, the guiding principle behind good manners, is as relevant as always.
1. Know how to eat properly. Keep your napkin on your lap; use a knife and fork simultaneously and cut as you eat (cutting your entire steak into pieces looks like you’re about to feed a three year-old). Dry your mouth with a napkin before drinking from a glass so you don’t leave greasy lip prints behind. Chew with your mouth closed and don’t talk with a full mouth. It doesn’t matter whether you’re at a fancy restaurant or the Taco Shack-do you ever want a view of your coworker’s half-chewed burrito?
2. Do yourself justice by taking care of yourself and your appearance, whether that means going to the gym or maintaining your roots. Regardless of how wonderful you are, people develop an impression of you before you even open your mouth.
3. Watch your language. Swearing has become so common that it’s hardly shocking, but you can be a lot more descriptive (and interesting) with legitimate vocabulary words. Challenge yourself to describe the guy that cut you off on your way to work as something other than an asshole. And never forget that there should be a difference between how you talk to your friends and how you talk in a business environment.
4. Dress appropriately. If you’re unsure (a new job, a big party, a special night out), overdress. Better to stand out for a little black dress than flip-flops and jeans.
5. Be in control of yourself in public. Yelling, crying and other diva behavior may get you attention, but not the kind you want. If an argument is getting loud and unpleasant, take it somewhere private.
6. Guides on manners are a dime a dozen, so if you’re prepping for something in particular you can figure it out in no time. Otherwise, hold doors. Help a woman with a baby stroller carry it upstairs. Don’t litter. In a word, be gracious. Good manners make the world a nicer place.
